Why is it that we always believe in everyone else but not always ourselves? We constantly tell people they are good enough to reach their goals but often have little confidence and belief in ourselves.
We were at an event not that long ago and we were asked to jot down something we wanted to achieve. When we were asked if we thought we could achieve the goal the majority of people said they didn’t think they could. It’s funny though because what we both wrote down we didn’t think we would be able to achieve but we immediately turned to each other and said ‘you can achieve that’ but why weren’t we able to say that about our own goals?
Believing in yourself doesn’t make you over confident or arrogant it just means you know you can do something no matter how hard it is or how far out your comfort zone it is going to take you. It’s true what they say ‘nothing worth having comes easy’ we have to work towards what we want and even if that means taking a few steps back every now and then.
The more you tell yourself you can do something the more you are going to actually start believing it. Stop thinking you cannot achieve something because you can actually achieve anything if you put your mind to it.
Try your hardest to push past the discomforting feeling you feel when you think you cannot do something. Say goodbye to those negative comments in your brain that would usually hold you back. It is hard to begin with but like with anything good things take time so stick with it and you will finally learn to trust yourself and your abilities.
‘If you do not know where you are heading, you will never get there’
We read the above somewhere and it has forever stuck with us because quite frankly it is SO true. Setting yourself goals isn’t necessarily creating a life plan instead it is about giving yourself the creativeness that is required to aim for things you never thought were possible.
To be successful we need to set ourselves courageous and realistic goals. Last year just before Christmas we sat down together and wrote down a list of goals that we thought we could achieve in the next year. We then decided to put them in a sealed envelope and not open them until the following year after we had set ourselves a new set of goals (we are yet to open them yet!).
Why you ask? We wanted to see if the goals we set for next year are less challenging than the goals we set for this year. We honestly cannot remember the goals we wrote down on our list and it will be really interesting to see whether or not we have smashed these goals or not come close. So we will sit down in December 2017 again this year and write ourselves a new set of goals these will then go in another envelope and will not be looked at until December 2018. Once our new set of goals have been written we will open last years goals!
We love setting ourselves yearly goals but day to day we focus on our daily, weekly or monthly goals. If we don’t set and focus on the smaller goals then how are we ever supposed to reach our big yearly goals? A goal that is big or small to you may be the opposite for someone else. Its so important we don’t compare our goals to anyone elses because everyone is totally different and we will all achieve our goals differently.
Why don’t you give it a go this year?