It’s Okay To Cry

Overwhelming emotion starts to rise in your chest, your eyes start to water, you can feel the lump getting bigger in your throat and it’s really starting to hurt, you try your hardest not to burst into tears flapping your hand back and forward like a fan in front of your eyes. Its fine you have this under control you will not cry you tell yourself over and over again.  You take a deep breath and walk back into the room, someone asks you if you are okay, you try your hardest to reply with ‘yes I am fine’ but before you can finish your sentence the tears are already rolling down your cheeks and before you know it you are sobbing.

Does the above sound familiar, do you have those days when all you want to do is cry but you really don’t have a clue why? You feel stupid because when someone asks you what’s wrong you don’t even know what to say because you don’t even know why you are crying.

When you finally stop crying, sobbing or even wailing (because let’s be honest we have all been there) we can bet you feel like a tonne of bricks have been taken off your shoulders. We all have these days where we feel more emotional than others don’t feel like you are alone because you certainly are not.

Growing up we were told over and over again don’t be a ‘cry baby’, as if only babies were supposed to cry. Crying can be judged and it has definitely left us feeling embarrassed a fair few times, running to the toilets splashing our face with cold water and slapping more concealer and powder on our faces to try and get rid of our red blotchy faces in the hope that no one will notice. Don’t think it makes you weak, people cry not because they are weak but because they have been strong for too long.

Some people see crying as a sign of weakness but facing up to your emotions involves strength in the form of vulnerability. Holding back the tears doesn’t make the pain or emotions go away instead we are fundamentally digging ourselves a giant hole and burying our emotions alive. So let it all out cry as much as you want and don’t feel like you have to justify why you are crying to anyone.

How to De-Stress over the Holidays

Life can be so hectic and sometimes the only time we allow ourselves to chill at home not doing much other than eating and spending time with family is at Christmas time. We have spoken to endless amounts of people about this prior to writing this post and almost everyone says the same thing- Christmas is the only holiday we spend at home doing nothing and don’t feel guilty for it.

It’s important that we have time to switch off from everyday life and the stresses that can come from it. Take the time to do the things you love but don’t usually prioritise or have time to fit in around your daily routine whether this is baking a cake, going for a run, painting your nails or watching your favourite TV show that you are now 5 seasons behind on.

This shouldn’t be just at Christmas time though, try and schedule a weekend in every now and again where you just spend time doing the things you really want to do. We always talk about how much we LOVE these weekends, we wouldn’t want these kinds of weekends all the time because we wouldn’t appreciate them as much but it is nice when you have been so hectic just to sit at home on a Saturday evening with a glass of wine in hand watching your favourite TV show.

We have set ourselves a challenge to make sure we start to schedule in these weekends, putting our self-care and health as a priority. This is going to be really hard for us because we always love being on the go making the most of our weekends and making them as jam packed as possible, but we know sometimes we end up burning the candle at both ends and it usually results in us becoming poorly which isn’t something we want.

So we urge you to do the same as us, start off with Christmas (if you can and have the time off work). Really allow yourself to switch off from your daily routine, say goodbye to the stressful morning commute, work deadlines and everything anything else that angers you or causes you stress on a daily basis. We can assure you your body and mind will thank you for it and you will feel so much better for it, going back to work in January feeling refreshed with a new optimistic mind that is ready to smash everything that comes your way.

So we are going to help you to start, grab a pen and paper and write down everything you love doing in your spare time that you want to do regularly going forward you can see some of the things that are on our lists below:

Annie
Bake banana loaf- my favourite
Swimming
Catch up on Nashville- best TV show ever
Go for a long walk in the woods
Straightening my hair

Rach
Painting my nails
Reading and finishing a book
Cleanse my skin
Cross Stich
Reading my favourite magazines